A message from a survivor and recovery enthusiast

By Jessica Emily, littlestlady.com
Author sits in a gazebo

Jessica Emily writes about being a survivor and recovery at littlestlady.com

Hello everyone! My name is Jessica and I am the owner of the blog littlestlady.com where I detail my recovery from childhood abuse and mental health difficulties! I am an empowerment coach, public speaker and recovery enthusiast!

I wanted to drop by and share some little tips with you to help you get through this current time!

We are all struggling right now and not only is it important to say that, but it’s also important to feel it! During this time it’s important to not push how were feeling away, label those feelings as bad and try and do anything to not do the things that as humans, were supposed to do!

Our lives have been flipped upside down in a matter of moments. Our routines have changed and the things we use to support ourselves whether that be therapy or group support has been taken away or altered in some way.

It’s important to recognize how were feeling, and to me, that’s self care 101. Allowing ourselves to have feelings and telling ourselves that it’s okay to have them! Only then can we learn to move through those feelings. Feeling lonely? Call a friend! Feeling a little sluggish? Move your body! Is the world feeling a little heavy? Take some time out and do something fun!

That’s another important factor, making sure we keep our minds and bodies active. There are lots of things we can do in these times to help support and work through how we are feeling. That can be anything from doing something productive like putting some music on and cleaning your room or going for a walk. It’s important to not over do things though, and balance things out by taking some time out and relaxing. Even something like snuggling down and watching a comedy can be great for your mental health!

If lack of routine is something you’re struggling with, I have found it really beneficial to create a little schedule for myself. You could do one for a few days, for a whole week or just take it day by day depending on how you’re feeling on the day.

It’s important to not put too much stress on yourself right now and do what your body and mind needs you to do which will be different for us all! It doesn’t matter what others are doing right now. Don’t feel guilty because you don’t feel capable of doing the things others are doing. Do what you need to do to get through this current time. Now is a time for self love and care, not for feeling guilty!

Take care and look after yourselves.


Childhelp is grateful for Jessica’s words of encouragement. They aren’t just helpful while people undertake social distancing efforts, they are useful any time a survivor is going through a rough patch. We encourage survivors of all ages to call or text the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD or start an online chat at childhelphotline.org.