My name is Julie, I am 33 years old and this is my story of how I overcame sexual abuse that was inflicted upon me by my biological father and brother. I was only 3 years old when my biological father left, however, the damage was already done, not only to me, but to my older brother as well. When I was 5 years old, my brother started molesting me. My mom then married my step dad and the mental, emotional and physical abuse started within a few months of that. I never felt safe at home. I would stay out till dark, to avoid the abuse from my step dad and would sleep under my bed to avoid the abuse my brother was putting me through. For many years, I blamed my mom for not knowing about my brother and step dad. I also blamed myself for not stopping the abuse.
When I was 13, I went to live with my grandparents. By my freshman year I became pregnant with my second child (first child I gave up for adoption). I ended up keeping my second son, of whom I am very proud to say has just graduated high school and is enrolled in college. I have seen firsthand the effects of child abuse. I am raising 5 children (step children) who have gone through similar circumstances that their biological mothers have put on them. I also have obtained custody of my niece, which the state of California has taken out of my brother’s care along with my two nephews, which other family members are raising. I have had to witness the destruction of my brother’s life due to abuse. I know had my mom gotten help for me and protected me not only from our biological father as well as my brother (which she had removed from the house due to her finding out about his abuse towards me), I would not be the person that I am today.
I am currently back in school to become a child psychologist, as I know that I have a LOT of personal life experience, but just needing the education to back it. I know there are a lot of people out there with more horrific stories, however, if just one person who is going through what I have gone through can be helped by my story, then I know God has used for good what the devil meant for my destruction. There is NOTHING that one can go through that they cannot overcome with love, patience and God. Thank you for reading my story.